We both came into the relationship with an open mind about sex. Over time we developed guidelines, and boundaries that worked for both of us. We did have to negotiate some of those in the beginning, until we found perspectives that worked. We recommend you be honest about what you want sexually. Be willing to hear each other, and be understanding without judgement. Once you put it all out there, pick through it together, and see what feels good to both of you. Be aware that your sexual desires and needs will change over time, so no need to battle this out. Set the intention for both of you to get what you need.