No More Contact…
The first thing you need to do is to cut off all contact with your ex. No phone calls, no texting, and no driving by their house late at night. Right now you are both very emotional and any attempts to communicate will likely backfire and lead to even more pain and conflict. It’s not worth the risk!
No More Dating…
Even though you may be tempted, refrain from jumping back into the dating scene or into another romantic relationship at this time. Right now you are emotionally vulnerable. The last thing that you need is to find yourself back in another unwanted committed relationship or romantic predicament. Don’t worry, you’ll get back in the game again, but not just right now.
Give Yourself 2 Weeks to Be Upset:
After being cheated on, some friends and family members may try to discourage you from crying and being upset, but not us. When a loved one cheats on you, being angry and crying is a very natural response that can also be extremely therapeutic. The key is to not stay upset for too long. We recommend that you give yourself 2 weeks maximum to cry and get it all out of your system. And after the 2 weeks are up, wipe your tears and get back to your life.
Make Peace with Where You’re At…
The next step is for you to make peace with your situation and learn to forgive your ex. This is extremely vital because you cannot have a better romantic future unless you make peace with your romantic past. Below are 5 new perspectives you need to tell yourself in order to accomplish this:
- I did nothing wrong – my ex was the one with the dishonesty problem!
- I appreciate the good memories and hope the best for my ex!
- My ex was obviously not the one for me – I’m grateful it was revealed!
- All men/women are not cheaters – there are a lot of trustworthy men/women!
- I am grateful to be free and to have a second chance to find my real true love!
Step Up Your Game…
This is your opportunity to finally attract the amazing romantic partner that you’ve always wanted and deserved. But in order to do this you have to be the most amazing “you” possible. Take advantage of this new beginning by doing exciting things like getting a makeover, hitting the gym and creating a sexier body, meeting new friends and discovering new passions. Most importantly, have fun and enjoy being single. When you eventually meet your true love, you’ll realize that your cheating ex did you a huge favor.
