The beaches are filling up, the pools are open, and cookouts are aplenty. Your city may even put together outdoor summer concerts, or you may have a vacation lined up. If you have children, they may be in summer camps or looking forward to playdates and other summertime activities. All of that was exhausting to read, right? Now, imagine coordinating all of that and getting to every engagement!
There are internal and external pressures to make the most of your summer. Those factors may push you into overdrive during the seemingly “laid-back and chill” season. If going to the beach becomes a chore instead of a jovial experience, you are likely experiencing a burnout. The term “burnout” is a common workplace term because exhaustion from work is quite common. Work-related stress can also cause you to burnout, but this term is a bit more broad now.
During the pandemic, many parents experienced burnouts. Monitoring scholastic Zoom sessions, keeping the children occupied and safe, and having to work and worry about the future did anything but relax parents. A 2022 report noted feelings or irritability, emotional detachment, and a general overwhelmed feeling as a parental burnout. The primary takeaway, according to mental health experts, is that a burnout tends to result from an over-stressed life. Physical, mental, and emotional elements can all cause exhaustion and varying emotions, but you can control them if you know what to do.
Why Is Summer Causing A Burnout?
The summer burnout is real, according to psychologists. Why is that the case when summer is a traditionally a relaxing time of year? People enter summer with certain expectations, the most common of which is that it will be exciting, amazing, and incredibly fun. That mentality over-commits yourself to potential opportunities that come your way. That, in turn, causes you to feel overwhelmed and ambushed. The differing schedules, vacations, child pickups, and more are all moving parts that require mental energy. Not only that, but the schedules are very tiring and fill up your plate.
If you feel burned out and want to enjoy the rest of your summer, consider the following tips to help you cope with a burnout.
Embrace Flexibility
As a human, it is very natural to think in a very black and white way. For example, you either go to your friend’s barbecue or you don’t. In reality, there are many decisions you can make about certain events, or anything involving your participation. If your neighbor invites you over for a backyard cookout, go over for a drink and then head out. Part-time attendance is a beautiful thing, giving you all the perks of participating and enjoying down time as well. Always ask yourself what actions will serve you in the best way and go from there. Being flexible is a skill, and an amazing one at that!
Focus On One Thing At A Time
If you multitask your way through life, you tend to skip over crucial details. Some people look at multitasking as a way to fit everything in, but it can fuel inattention and an unproductive attitude. If you work at the pool or beach while trying to enjoy yourself and monitor your children, your full attention is not directed at any of the tasks. In order to prioritize one thing, you have to de-prioritize another thing. Splitting your focus is a surefire way to burn yourself out, but focusing on one thing at a time can help you take back control of your life. For example, put your phone down if you’re working and stop working if you want to enjoy family time.
Create A Summer Value Statement
What do you want to embrace this summer? Do you want to learn more about yourself, or do you want to become more adept at anticipating the needs of others? A value statement can help you avoid a burnout because it outlines personal or family qualities to which you want to adhere. Whatever you value is the right answer! Think about the ways you behave this summer and see if your actions align with your value statement. When invitations or obligations arise, you can decide how you want to act according to your value statement.
Check In With Yourself
It can occasionally feel like life is running away from you, but you can pivot, assess, and redirect your efforts to prevent that from happening. Psychologists encourage you to regularly check in with yourself to avoid disconnecting entirely. If you feel frazzled, take time to hit the pause button and ask yourself what you need. Do you need more rest and relaxation? Perhaps you need to spend less time operating around your kids’ schedules. Try to establish a regular practice of seeing what you need to make summer as enjoyable as possible.
Schedule Time To Do Less
You most likely have a to-do list, but is “do less” on that list? If you are constantly on the move and feel stressed, give yourself permission to scale back. Try to list out everything that you have to do in the coming week, or month if you prefer a long-term view. Ask yourself what you can cut out, or what’s easiest to cut. Sometimes, you just need to watch some TV or read a book. Other times you may want to go for a run or head to the beach with friends. Don’t be afraid to do less because it is often a great remedy!
