Do you regularly see the downside of everything? Are you in a constant battle with negativity? You are not alone! Many people tend to have a negative bias, which means that they feel or notice negative things more frequently and intensely than positive things. For example, a person could experience a string of positive things and focus on the one negative thing to ruin their day.
How Do You Stop Focusing On Negative Things?
As always, don’t be too hard on yourself. Everyone has the ability to think negatively at any time, but having self-compassion can help shift those negative thoughts in a more positive direction. Regulating your emotions after relishing in negativity for so long, however, can be a little difficult. It may take some time to shift your mindset into a more positive light. Over time, though, you can practice strategies and experience improvement in your mental outlook. Continue reading to learn more about them.
Check Your Attribution Style
The world is not responsible for all of your woes, and the things you do actually matter in life. Mental health experts characterize this negative view as “external attribution.” Basically, this means that you have given up control of your own life, which will only make you feel worse in the long run. In order to get out of this mindset, think of things you do have control over. Every single person has control over some things in life, so identify what those things are for you and you may be able to get out of your own way. Not every bad thing in life is your fault, and you shouldn’t put yourself through that emotional stress!
Make Positive Concepts More Accessible
The brain prefers to go with what is familiar, easier, and quicker because it requires less mental energy. In order to undo all the negativity that’s been intricately spun in your mind, you have to do your best to make positive concepts more familiar to the brain. One potential way to do this is to develop a positive word of the day, similar to an affirmation. You can also memorize a series of positive words every morning and ask yourself to recall them at night before bed. Although there is no research that necessarily identifies positive regions of the brain, strengthening the connections between positive concepts and your ability to generate positive thoughts and emotions can make it easier to repeat that habit.
Generate Positivity With Your Imagination
If you struggle with negativity, you are probably an expert at imagining negative things. Forcing yourself to imagine positive things or images can change this pattern. It’s similar to the exercise of thinking of positive words, which we mentioned earlier. Give it a go and try imagining positive things, such as eating your favorite food, seeing your favorite person, or going to your favorite place.
Practice Gratitude
There are many health benefits, both physical and mental, you reap when you practice daily gratitude. This is a practice that makes it easier to focus on the good things and accept the bad things as they are. In order to practice gratitude, try writing down things you are grateful for in a gratitude journal. These don’t have to be big or elaborate things, either. You can be grateful for having food in your fridge, a car that works without issues, or a beautiful partner in life. When you notice all of the good things you have in life, you can shift your focus away from negativity.
Deconstruct Your Negativity
If you can deconstruct a sandwich to class it up, you can do the same with your negative thoughts. Whenever you encounter a bout of negativity, it is very easy to see the external causes of those emotions. Rarely do you recognize the internal causes, though. The fact of the matter is that your thoughts have just as much (potentially more) to do with your negativity than your situation. You create your own reality and in order to deconstruct how your thoughts fuel negativity, engage in the following self-reflections:
- Do you tend to think that everything will turn out terrible?
- Do you devalue or ignore positive things that happen?
- Do you only notice the bad things without glancing at the good?
If you answered “yes” to any of those questions, try to shift your thoughts in ways that increase positivity. In order to do that, use the following questions to shift your focus away from the negative:
- How could the situation turn out better than expected?
- What are the positive components of this situation?
- What makes the positive things in this situation valuable?
Vincent Stevens is the senior content writer at Dherbs. As a fitness and health and wellness enthusiast, he enjoys covering a variety of topics, including the latest health, fitness, beauty, and lifestyle trends. His goal is to inform people of different ways they can improve their overall health, which aligns with Dherbs’ core values. He received his bachelor’s degree in creative writing from the University of Redlands, graduating summa cum laude. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.
