Peace and blessing yall :-)
Wondering on how some of you all's experiences have been with dating people that have small children? Good, Bad, same? Drama??
Currently I don't have any kids, but I met a really nice guy, but has two small children like 5 and 3. Not sure how the children's mother will act. But I'm the kind of person that stays far away from drama, so this will be a new experience for me in dating someone with children. But I'm almost 30, and not looking to play around, looking for someone who could potentially be my husband.
As far as dating someone with children you have to know what the relationship is with the children's mother.
Is she bitter they aren't together? Are they really good friends? Is she spiteful? Is she still "part of the family"? How long have they been apart?
In my opinion this makes a difference. You also need to know what type of father he is, because if he is a half ass daddy you may not want that either. Just because the man has kids doesn't mean that there will be drama, but if he is a really good father you have to understand that you will never be first in his life and you have to be okay with that.
As far as what Minister 8-Ball and Kimathi said I have much respect for what they say that type of stuff doesn't bother me at all, because I know if a man doesn't want to date a woman with kids then we won't even cross paths. Thats no different to me than a man who won't date me because I'm lightskin or because I am thick, he's not looking for me anyway.
In my situation my daughters father is not in the picture, so I don't have no drama from that end of it. But I totally understand someone not wanting to deal with people who have kids man or woman.
Myself personally, I would prefer a man with no kids or not to many kids. I don't like to date men with a lot of kids mothers and a lot of kids because that is to many personalities from the moms he is dealing with which can sometimes = Drama, been there and don't want to go back.
To the other single mothers, there are so many men out here who respect us as women and mothers that it doesn't matter to them when they are looking to know us. They already understand that our children are part of us and they know that going in. If we are being "passed up" then they can keep it moving because we are not what they want and it would probably be the same in return.
I respect everyones input when it comes to this situation because sometimes it can get limited when so many people have children and are single.
Do you and get to know the persons situation first with the kids before going in and getting to deep.