Healthy Self-Criticism

[Quinz]

We all know what it's like to have lived or still be living in the matrix thought paradigm of "beat yourself up". So I'd just like to know from the community:
What do you perceive to be healthy self-criticism family?

like what question do you ask yourself or how do you challenge your own poor habit(s) in such a way as to not leave yourself feeling devastated?


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Question came to me while reading "Invisible Man" by Ralph Ellison

What are you doing / thinking to black your own happiness?

[Djehuty-M]

Interesting!

[Imani]

This is a wonderful question because I was thinking about how I use to constantly critesize myself at times. A good example I can share is from this morning.

I made a smoothie and as I was pouring it into a cup I spilled some on the counter. “Damn, what’s up with you?” I said to myself. “I did this so easily for so long.” When I make a mistake I hear myself beating myself up. I finished what I was doing and enjoyed my smoothy.

The reason why this is such a simple act but got on my nerves so much is because being blind sucks sometimes. For the past three years I’ve been blind and I’m just now coming to the realization of it. I use to find myself beating myself up all the time. If I walk into something, knock something over, walk into someone etc. I know it’s not a purposeful act but I got to the point where I would blame myself for not seeing whatever or whoever it was. I stopped having faith &confidence  in myself and turned my back.

Now, when I find myself talking shit to myself I stop and say “What can I do to change this? This is where I am Now, so what move can I make to change the outcome.” Not being able to see anyone else physically, I started looking at myself. I started talking to myself positively, paying more attention to what I do, spend my time, act, feel, grow, read, laugh, and over all love me! And truly watch the people I allow in my circle. I want to move up! Everyday it takes work but this is the type of work that is beneficial.

From being on both sides of the fence I’m glad that I have this time to take out for myself. Growing up I just did what I saw. But by the time I was a teenager I didn’t like the person I became and instead of changing it then, I did nothing and grew up into a young adult who thaught they new everything but didn’t know anything of value.

What are you doing to block your own happiness?
Watching and being what everyone else wanted me to be!

What are you doing to enjoy your happiness?
Being true to myself! Being who I want to be!

Life is growing, living, and enjoying. Everyday I do all three. Oh, all I had to do with the pitcher of smoothy was change the way I was holding it so I can pour it easier.

The Best Things Are Free!

[MATHYOU]

gravity is a bitchy Queen ain't it...can't live with it

can't live without it!!!!!

butchyeah....just realize you's a God.....

"WAKE UP HIPHOPPA! GOD is the very event that caused you to go astray in the beginning.  It is GOD who has been teaching you from before you were even born, preparing you with the events of your very life for the ministry you are now qualified to promote.  For only wisdom and real life experiences possess the authority to correctly teach others.  The greatest of all sins is to believe that you actually have the power to sin, that somehow there is you and GOD.  WAKE UP HIPHOPPA!  GOD is a thousand times more devious than you can ever be.  In fact, it is those who, because of fear and/or pride, never come to GOD for corrections, who continue to judge themselves when GOD is not even judging them.  It is they who suffer the most in prolonged immaturity and ignorance.  And even this is GOD's doing"--KRS ONE