Haters

[Abrown1390]

 How come when one start something new the people you'd expect to be happy for you ALWAYS have to rain on your parade? Case in point: For the last year I have been saying I wanted a juicer & a blender so that I can make the lifestyle changes I want. I've been telling everyone how when tax time comes round those items is what I be buying and getting myself together. And yes I have/had a plan... 1) purchase juicer/blender 2) purchase dherbs FBD 3) purchase a gym membership w/ gym shoes

Now just today I DID all the above I am super happy (really ) so I tell my mom and my sister and do you know they BOTH said 'well just cuz you bought this stuff you know you're not going to use it, you just wasted you're money. I was like 'really', I didn't feel like arguing with them cuz I would have told them about themselves. For one we all as of today have been/raised on the SAD diet (indulging daily on meats /dairy/cooked foods) All the things people on here have stopped or are. Now 2 my mom (54) is a chronic smoker/drinker/ pharmaceutical drug user,and she is currently over weight. Now just last year she began to work out at her job she lost about 30 lbs. but she's still over weight and she still smokes/drink. Now 3 times over the course of 2 yrs she's checked herself int the hospital for chest pains... wonder what that could be about?  And my sister is no better, love her for life but my oldest sister (35) has had alcohol poison that sent her to the ER and she had coma from it in'94. She has had in the last 5 yrs been diagnosed with lupus, cervical cancer, alopecia, saccardosis, and psoriasis. She's been in the hospital more times than I can count and the last two times the doctor told her that her liver is corroding, and her kidneys are at 35% and to that she has pancreatitus. So you can guess how many pills she has to take on a daily basis
 
Do you guys think that either them has taken the time even consider what I doing? No. But, I'm no angel. I myself am over weight but the difference here that I don't ANY of the problems they do and I've never drank or smoked or tried ANY drugs. Also I myself am owning up to the fact I do not want to turn out like them and the only to not do so is to make the changes I'm doing now. Now I didn't ever try to push my current ideas on them I merely told them THIS is what I'M DOING- hell they act like I asked them for a consolation prize....

[Virgo Rising]

Kudos to you for taking charge of your health and being proactive! And good job for not arguing with them and feeding into their negative energy. What it all boils down to is that your mother and sister subconsciously know that the way they're living is wrong and when they see you trying to make positive changes it makes them feel inadequate. They know they have to change their lifestyle, but they don't want to. When I've told people that I don't eat pork (when I still ate meat) they would get an attitude and ask me, "oh so you think you better than me/us?". It's the same thing. It's either that or they're jealous of you because they don't have the courage to make the changes they know that need to be made in their lives. They could also be afraid that if you change your diet and lifestyle, then maybe they'll loose you. That's something that I've also seen before. Just ignore them, keep doing what you're doing, and when they start to see the results that you're getting I guarantee they'll start to come to you for advice about their health. Hopefully they're not so far gone as to not be inspired by your example.

I feel your pain too. I'm going through something similar. I'm a singer/songwriter, I own my own record label, and I'm getting ready to release my first single. My father brings the song everywhere and plays it for everybody (he's my manger). He brought it to a family gathering for New Year's Day and let my aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. listen to it. There had to be at least 40 people there. Now mind you, EVERY other person who hears the song loves it and tells me that I have a hit. All of my extended family with the exception of 4 people only said that the song was nice, but then proceeded to tell me everything that could go wrong. When I told them that I was getting ready to release it for radio airplay my aunt (by marriage) tells me that someone is going to end up stealing my song. She's so dumb she doesn't even know about copyright laws. They also seem to think that my father is lacking the ability to manage my career just because he went to jail in the 70s. Forget the fact that he grew up in the music business and learned it from my grandpa who was a musician, producer, and radio station program director. No encouragement, no positive advice, just pure negativity. I didn't let it phase me though because some of these same people were hoping for me to get pregnant and drop out while I was in college. While in school they never wanted to know about my grades or my accomplishments, just who I was screwing. That all stopped when I graduated without a baby or even bringing a guy home for the holidays. In their case, my light is just too bright for their dim asses and they can't stand it. Your mom and sister are hating out of fear. My people are hating just because they come from a long line of haters (on the other side of their family, not mine). It's genetic. LOL!

The best will be when you follow through and are able to rub your results in their face. Success is always the best revenge!

[sunscribe - (Dreamsun)]

 "my light is just too bright for their dim asses"  --Ha Ha I love this 

[Minister8-Ball]

Success breeds enemies - PERIOD! It's the dark side of what success brings. Your success forces others to deal with their lack of achievement. Therefore, instead of focusing on improving themselves, they find it easier to attack you.

It's also not surprising that it will come from those closest to you. Their fear is that you will leave them "in the dust" and forget about them.

The price of success is an interesting one, but you will come out victorious. Your authentic self will shine and force those around you to make a decision:

1. Change and grow with you


or

2. Bounce like a bad check

[W1ze]

Success breeds enemies - PERIOD! It's the dark side of what success brings. Your success forces others to deal with their lack of achievement. Therefore, instead of focusing on improving themselves, they find it easier to attack you.

It's also not surprising that it will come from those closest to you. Their fear is that you will leave them "in the dust" and forget about them.

The price of success is an interesting one, but you will come out victorious. Your authentic self will shine and force those around you to make a decision:

1. Change and grow with you


or

2. Bounce like a bad check


True words....

[Abrown1390]

Thanks for the replies, on Monday I'm going to meet with my trainer and you know whats great she herself is a vegan and has been one for over 15 yrs. She just personal train people as a part time passion. And when this whole physical transformation is complete they will have to conform to my new way of being. I can't stay in the same environment cuz it be like an alcoholic being sober but working in a bar....

[fairydoll]

Preach on Minister8-ball! I think you hit the nail on the head. Seems like we've all gone through something like this. I know I have when I have tried to tell my family about my plans to change my diet and do the detox. Now I'm a small person, and when I told my mom about the detox, all she could say was "you're already skinny, you don't need to lose weight". Its so frustrating and negative! Oh and then, I try to inform my family about the things I've learned recently about health and they either discredit it because it didn't come from traditional "doctors" (no mind of their own) or they claim they already know everything I'm trying to tell them. Ugh..