Emotional Connection: Key to Orgasm?

[El Negro]

"In one of his books—and I apologize for not remembering which one it was—the pimp turned author, Iceberg Slim, said that often times a John (a man who pays prostitutes for sex) might have the biggest penis, but he still can’t bring the prostitute he is having sex with to an orgasmic climax.


Iceberg said that the reason isn’t because the John is not skilled at various sexual techniques, because in some cases he might be. Slim said that it is because the prostitute does not have any emotional connection to the John so no matter how big the John’s penis is, no matter how fast and how long he thrusts rhythmically into her womb, she won’t dance to his music. She just will not cum. The prostitute is too numb and the John is too dumb for trying to invoke feelings in her that she could never genuinely have for him."

What do you all think? Is this true? Or can a man with sexual technique bring ANY woman to the point of orgasm?

[UltraVioletMix]

Its true, well for me it is.....the ONLY man I experienced orgasms with was one I was deeply in love with and our connection was soo strong...still is to this day. I cannot think about him too much or ill hear from him. 

I think its a lil bit of both...cause his skills are on point...BUT at first they were not, we talked about what we both like and worked through our sexual issues together (we both had A LOT of negative sexual issues)...which lead to healing....which created a bond...which lead to mind blowing orgasms.  We healed together, and i dont know if anyone has entered a relationship in which lead to elevation of the mind, body and soul to bring about healing...those type of relationships will form a deep bond...a situation filled with love, understanding and freedom (in our case).

[Radiance]

Very true.

Guy I was seeing, very skilled and packing for days, but I could sense his heart/emotions wasn't in it, which I believe contributed to me not having an orgasm. 

And to flip it, in a previous relationship, the guy was skilled, but not very large at all, but I had multiple orgasms with him, I knew he loved me with all sincerety.

Some guys think they can sweet talk us and say all the right words, but most women can sense when it geniune and when its not, and our body reacts accordingly to the vibe.

To me, intamacy is a little physical, but a lot Mental.

[Virgo Rising]

I agree 100%, at least as far as I'm concerned. If I don't have an emotional and mental connection with a man, if I can sense that he's only in it for the sex, then I am not going to have an orgasm. Also if he doesn't do something to stimulate my mind, then I won't even get aroused. I'm a Gemini. Love making starts in my head FIRST. If I do have an orgasm with him, it won't be very strong no matter how much he's packing or how good his stroke is. I find I have the most intense orgasms if I'm in love with the person I'm having sex with. I'm sure a man can bring some women to orgasm on just technique alone, but it all depends on what the woman desires. If all she's looking for is some hot sex, then yes it's possible, but if she's looking for intimacy and a deeper connection on a spiritual level, then no.

Side note:
Just because a brother is packing doesn't mean that the sex is automatically good. Some of the best sex I've ever had was with a man who only had 5 in during an erection, yet he knew how to make it feel like 10! The worst and most tedious was with a man who had 11 in (what a waste!).   From my own experiences and talking with other women, it seems that most guys who are 9 in and above don't know how to work it in the bedroom because they think that their sheer size alone is enough to get a woman off.

Just my 2 cents.

[africa]

"In one of his books—and I apologize for not remembering which one it was—the pimp turned author, Iceberg Slim, said that often times a John (a man who pays prostitutes for sex) might have the biggest penis, but he still can’t bring the prostitute he is having sex with to an orgasmic climax.


Iceberg said that the reason isn’t because the John is not skilled at various sexual techniques, because in some cases he might be. Slim said that it is because the prostitute does not have any emotional connection to the John so no matter how big the John’s penis is, no matter how fast and how long he thrusts rhythmically into her womb, she won’t dance to his music. She just will not cum. The prostitute is too numb and the John is too dumb for trying to invoke feelings in her that she could never genuinely have for him."

What do you all think? Is this true? Or can a man with sexual technique bring ANY woman to the point of orgasm?

Phases
When I was younger… I didn’t mind having fun, experimenting you don’t need love or mature emotions to have fun and experiment. At this stage anything goes you don’t know what to expect how u will feel etc you just engage and hope to have fun and learn something new 

Then I began to grow up… I would have long episodes of no sex  but masturbation was present, and when I did eventually have sex it was good my body had matured and I truly could tell the difference of sex in my teens and sex as a young adult .Sex in my teens was painful my body hadn’t matured enough to undertake this

Then I really grew up…The sex fasts became longer in the duration of years, and I was unable to achieve and or feel anything with masturbation. When I broke my fasts I would have the feeling you describe I was numb numb to sex you could pound on me all day gymnastic me etc etc blah blah but I wont feel a thing. If I don’t love you if I don’t feel deeply for you sex will be an in and out motion that yields no orgasm.The end goal for a man in the sex act is to cum, if you sex me and I am numb to you I may cum produce bodily fluids because of the in and out motion but I will not orgasm (be filled with the height of pleasure)

NB:
Width is more important than length long brothers are painful brothers especially if they don’t know what they are doing

All men believe they are good in bed you are not!!! Most women complain to fellow women and other men not the men that sucks! We are caring creatures by nature and would hate to crush you

Contrary to what men believe women don’t like to sleep next to beasts.Women are just as visual as men are, the only difference being that we look at the entire package at the end of the day.Whereas a man can easily be sold on one aspect of the package.

A woman can always sense u genuiness and or lack of it.Whether she chooses to suppress this is another story altogether

[MATHYOU]

wow....iceberg slim....the man who ended mah womanizing
forever....and eye was barely a womanizer to begin with but...

tummmmm.....

nice responses from duh lay-deez

eye think it depends on the woman and where her head is at

some women need to get drunk and high to cum

some women just want sum penis with no attachment to cum

some women need a man who got 1000 dollar shoes on to cum

some women need a man with a 6 pack, some white ass teeth
and a pretty face and a nice head of hair to cum

sum women need to get in a big ghetto ass arguement with
the man to cum

eye remember at a fugeez show Wyclef said his paycheck gives
girls multiple orgasms

but yes...upper chakra dominant type women would need
some kind of emotional connection

and yes a big penis don't mean nothing....sometimes
all it can do is just bruise up da power you