just because you're thinking of him/her, does it mean s/he is thinking of you?

[MissC]

I had a very bad experience with a person about a year ago. Even though my thoughts/feelings of him have diminished greatly since then, I still sometimes think of him and the situation. Someone told me "you are still thinking about it because he is too" I have heard this before too that if u are having strong thoughts about someone, it means they are thinking of u

[MissC]

Also, could it be that justy because you are thinking of someone strongly, they could have forgotten all about you and its just you that's still dwelling on it?

[360 overstand]

Could possibly be, what I want to know is if you dream about this person are they thinking of you.

Last night I dreamed about a woman who had rejected me a while back, to me the most beautiful woman I've ever seen ever til this day. and think of a neighborhood that was built on the side of a hill and each block was going uphill. This woman happened to have a lot of younger sisters. So in the dream I was a block away, on the roof of a house. I saw her pull up into this funny looking house, it had a zig zag staircase on the front of it, was three stories high with a balcony on top. So I was watching her from afar while she and her sisters hop out of the care and some enter the house, and she and her youngest sister remained on the porch. So that house was in the middle of the block. I proceeded to walk to the corner then up the hill to the opposite corner from the west corner of her block. Our eyes met, there was no smiles or frowns. We just stared, then I proceeded to walk up the hill . I could probrably have 100 women throw themselves at my feet but would still think about her and wonder how shes doing.

[MissC]

@ With Purpose. I think it's because there is unfinished business. On my part at least. Let me elaborate:
I knew a guy, We were messing around, I took a liking to him, he played me, so with the info I had on him and other into I had from his cousin, I put up a FaceBook page about him. Written as if he was writing about himself, not that I was writing about him. Very unflattering things, but true. He finds out about the page and was livid! And a couple days later vandalizes my truck. I have not retaliated. Friends tell me he will get what he deserves. But when! Over time, I think about him less and less, but every now and then I think of him and the situation and feel like I can't really move on until I retaliate. I feel like he "won" and I can't let him get away with playing me and then vandalizing my truck. Its so bad because he lives very close to me and sometimes when I've spent the night at a friends house or go out of time, I don't think about him. But when I'm on my way home, especially if its late at night, I think about him and swinging by there, doing what I gotta do, and go home. I feel I can't let it go until I retaliate. Oh, and the FaceBook page is still up too and I don't plan on ever taking it down. Its so bad I want to move as far away from this neighborhood as possible!!!

[MissC]

Let me also say that, by not retaliating, it would make him think that what he did didn't pahse me, but maybe by not doing anything he thinks he scared me. I thought that by laying low, he would not know when I would retaliate, thus making him always be cautious, not knowing when/what my next move will be. The only real thing that stops me is being scared that someone will see me

[360 overstand]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtVQcyuUuyk

[MissC]

ok sssoooooo, u sayin i'm a lunatic?

i mean, i just thought about key-ing his car or slashing tires, not killing his mom or blowing his house up. I thought someone on here would give me a WISE answer

[JesusM9]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dtVQcyuUuyk

Lmao

[UltraVioletMix]

@ With Purpose. I think it's because there is unfinished business. On my part at least. Let me elaborate:
I knew a guy, We were messing around, I took a liking to him, he played me, so with the info I had on him and other into I had from his cousin, I put up a FaceBook page about him. Written as if he was writing about himself, not that I was writing about him. Very unflattering things, but true. He finds out about the page and was livid! And a couple days later vandalizes my truck. I have not retaliated. Friends tell me he will get what he deserves. But when! Over time, I think about him less and less, but every now and then I think of him and the situation and feel like I can't really move on until I retaliate. I feel like he "won" and I can't let him get away with playing me and then vandalizing my truck. Its so bad because he lives very close to me and sometimes when I've spent the night at a friends house or go out of time, I don't think about him. But when I'm on my way home, especially if its late at night, I think about him and swinging by there, doing what I gotta do, and go home. I feel I can't let it go until I retaliate. Oh, and the FaceBook page is still up too and I don't plan on ever taking it down. Its so bad I want to move as far away from this neighborhood as possible!!!

Oh girl!!!! This little boy (in the mind) didnt play you....you allowed yourself to get played by this boy! I know that might be a lil harsh but i think deep down you know its tru. How long did you get to know this boy before yall was messin around….at least 6 mths to 1 yr?? If so I think you would have known he was 1) no good…not good enough to sleep wit(im guessing???)… 2)yall don’t have anything in common to build a solid relationship on.  This situation really must have hurt you for you go as far as trying to make him feel the same pain as you felt (that’s whats going when you put that page up, trying to hurt him by destroying his rep), all that page is doing is giving your power away…you are letting this guy know he got the best of you! Hes prolly at home laughing at it right now….saying  “yea..that b@#! did that…she miss this dick” Well maybe not those words exactly…but I think you get it. So he messed up your truck….well you was tryin to mess up his rep? Then you get back at him for messin up your truck….and clearly he don’t respect you….so he gets back at you…where does it end??? When one of yall is dead or seriously hurt?

It is soooo much easier to get mad at other ppl and blame them for our mistakes and problems then to look inward and ask “What the hell am I doing wrong for this bad ish to keep happening to me??” I think you should start to ask yourself some pretty hard questions…

Why do I keep falling for men who play me?
How do I value myself?
Do I like what I see when I look in the mirror?
Do I love myself and the path my life is on?
Did something happen to me in my past that I hevent dealt with yet?

You are directing all your energy towards this boy and non to yourself.  The reasons you keep attracting guys like this can only be discovered by you….but how can you ever discover them, and learn, and heal and grow….if you spend your energy on revenge (aka thinking about someone other then self)?? You will never heal and never change your life if you keep blaming other ppl for your problems.  I don’t think your crazy…I think you are jus really REALLY hurt and its hard to deal with the pain.

I hope the formentioned info did not offend you in any way Girl, I think we all have been where you are....things will get better when ever you decide to make it better.

[El Negro]

"We were messing around, I took a liking to him, he played me, so with the info I had on him and other into I had from his cousin, I put up a FaceBook page about him"



So you did all this because, you took a liking to him and he played you (what does this mean exactly?)? Are you heart broken? Do you still have feelings for him? Obviously he did what he did because you created a Facebook account dogging him out, its cause and effect.

Instead of being like that woman from a thin line between love and hate, just wait two weeks to do anything, and if you still feel like fucking up his stuff wait another two weeks, read the story of Andre Rison and Lisa Left Eye, if you still feel this way, wait another two weeks. If that anger is gone, then it wasn't important, if its still there, write him a letter or email, take down the facebook page, and just settle things like an adult, talk it out, release that bullshit from your heart and focus on attracting a new man. You are wasting too much energy and time doing all of this, and frankly it could lead to an escalated situation and have the constables on patrol (COP) involved in your life. Do you really want all that for a man who played you? Doesn't that seem weak on your part?

Have you had relationships like this before? Have you been "played" before? If so, what was your reaction last time? Do you still have feelings for this man? Are you hoping to have break up to make up intercourse?

[Heavenzsun]

How do you know he keyed your car? You saw him or he told you?
What exactly possesed you to spend your time and energy creating a false facebook page to tarnish a brothers name? Do you feel that your car being keyed was an action which was comparable to setting up a false fb page or do u think tht it was totally out of proportion? How old are you? Judging by your actions I would say early late teens or early twenties. This remind me of one of those fake ass reality tv dramas. Not to put anyone down or anything but I was just wondering to what end do you put up the page anyway? Did you want to hurt somebody? Karma is merciless!

[MissC]

Maybe I still am heartbroken. NO, i dont have feelings for him though. And NO i do not want to have intercourswe with him ever. I thought about writing him a letter but not sending it or burning the letter right after> So, do you think it woud be a good idea to actually send him the letter? it has been MORE than a few weeks or a couple months. As I said, as time goes on, my thoughts of him are less and less but we live inthe same neighborhood and it would be So easy for me to just drive down his block and fuck his car up.  I cant wait until i can move as far away from this neighborhood as possible! i have let ALOT of time pass and i feel like if i do something now, he will know i am still thinking of him after all this time. He was hiding his car right after the incident and i figured i would wait until he let his guard down, then attack

Matter of fact, i guess my thoughts have been so strong, that he drove past me today! i was in my truck, he was in his and we passed each other while driving. I had not seen him since before the incident and i just knew that by thinking of him so much, i would see him, or see the LITTLE GIRL(she couldnt be no more than 22 and this man is 47) that he was seeing while seeing me.

Yes, I have felt like i played myself before and after that, i had not had sex for 10 months. It didnt even occur to me to put up fake MySpace or FaceBook pages and he didnt have a car to fuck with i think because the last guy at least talked to me aand we were able to hash out and squash what happened. Then started talking to this guy, but i knew him from years ago, we just lost touch. I assumed since we got back  in touch things would be as they were and i was sadly mistaken
I think things are fucking with me the way they are is because this man did not even talk to me after the incident. or talk to me about  this girl i felt he was messing with. There is alot I'm leaving out

"We were messing around, I took a liking to him, he played me, so with the info I had on him and other into I had from his cousin, I put up a FaceBook page about him"



So you did all this because, you took a liking to him and he played you (what does this mean exactly?)? Are you heart broken? Do you still have feelings for him? Obviously he did what he did because you created a Facebook account dogging him out, its cause and effect.

Instead of being like that woman from a thin line between love and hate, just wait two weeks to do anything, and if you still feel like fucking up his stuff wait another two weeks, read the story of Andre Rison and Lisa Left Eye, if you still feel this way, wait another two weeks. If that anger is gone, then it wasn't important, if its still there, write him a letter or email, take down the facebook page, and just settle things like an adult, talk it out, release that bullshit from your heart and focus on attracting a new man. You are wasting too much energy and time doing all of this, and frankly it could lead to an escalated situation and have the constables on patrol (COP) involved in your life. Do you really want all that for a man who played you? Doesn't that seem weak on your part?

Have you had relationships like this before? Have you been "played" before? If so, what was your reaction last time? Do you still have feelings for this man? Are you hoping to have break up to make up intercourse?

[MissC]

How do you know he keyed your car? You saw him or he told you?
What exactly possesed you to spend your time and energy creating a false facebook page to tarnish a brothers name? Do you feel that your car being keyed was an action which was comparable to setting up a false fb page or do u think tht it was totally out of proportion? How old are you? Judging by your actions I would say early late teens or early twenties. This remind me of one of those fake ass reality tv dramas. Not to put anyone down or anything but I was just wondering to what end do you put up the page anyway? Did you want to hurt somebody? Karma is merciless!

he slashed my tires and busted 2 windows. I cant let that nigga get away with that!! Even though in a way i feel it it the effect of me putting up the page so i should end it with him being the winner??

How i know it was him because my friend has a FaceBook page that has 2 friends that are also on his. I had been talking to my friend all about him so he knew what was going on. He called me one day and was like "you still not over him.."  he said that his friend (who is also the man in question's cousin) called him and told him to look at the page. The man in question was no longer on FaceBook, i guess not interested in it anymore, so when someone went looking to contact him, she saw MY page and she called hium. He was LIVID! In a way i felt vindicated knowing that the page got to him so much. About two days later, in the morning, my neighbors ring my doorbell to let me know there was damage to my truck> so of course it was him I am in my 20's and this man is almost 50. I felt i have an obligation to let people know about him because at one point in time, he had the nerve to be a Reverend but has a thing for you girls and according to his cousin, preferably, hoodrat types. He is no longer a Reverend but i feel he cant be going around Eddie Longing it. I put up the page because i wanted tio hurt him and i wanted him to know i knew all about his hypocrite ass!

I feel like he "won" and I "lost". He took advantage of the fact that i liked him but i think i go two doses of Karma because when we originally met years ago, he liked me and i wasnt feeling him. This time around, he felt that i like him and milked it for all it was worth. trust me, i beat myself up about it for a while like " i should had done this or that instead" This time around he got rid of me around the time i felt like i needed to drop him, but he beat me to it. My friend told me eerything happens the way it was supposed to. The whole situation. Do you think it would be a good idea to write him a letter or email and actually send it. I've heard that you shouldnt actually send it, just bury itr, or burn it and release it

[Heavenzsun]

Sounds like you are a very passionate person. Reminds me of a water sign. Very emotional and very attached and very extreme. Reminds me of me in fact. I am a Scorpio. I can never ever ever get over people I have had feelings for in the past. I can only deny that I have feelings for them! Perhaps this is unhealthy? I only find solace in the fact that I can admit it openly even though folks tell me not to wear my heart on my sleeve because people are evil and will take advantage of you.

Only reason I asked if your sure it was him is cuz I wanted to make sure hot not paranoid. See some folks got more than one enemy but they will suspect the wrong one.

But healing is good. Letting go means moving on.
 
Sounds like these are some lower chakra issues what needs balancing! I would definitely suggest crystal therapy!!! You will really love it if u are a water sign like me.
It is very therapeutic and very effective.

Keep a level head and stay positive. Never dwell on the negative aspects of life or bad spirits will posses you. Always spend your mental energy on the positive side. The min a negative thought creeps up in your mind... Say CANCEL!!! Then think of a phrase or mantra which is positive.

[Heavenzsun]

I think there might be a more efficient way of exposing the little bois game. One where you don have to stoop down to his level. As far as winning loosen goes. He didn't win... You lost. In order for him to win he has to beat you in this game, but you have beaten yourself by first participating in his game. Then letting him get inside your head and your heart to the point where you are deeply affected. He definitely didn't beat you though! You still have a chance to make things right. As you have played the game, you got to finish what you became a part of. You got to handle yo biz nis. But this time with grace and propriety.

I agree that you should hip others to his game though for sure. I for one can't stand the males out there who prey on women seeking a certain something that they have a false replica of. They give of what you think is the spiritual vibe you looking for but really It's just a false illusion.

Closure will be found when your purpose is true and your intentions honest and pure. You say two things. You are doing it for selfish reasons i.e. He hurt you... and for selfless reasons; you don't want him to hurt others. I'm wondering if you can have it both ways.
You will find closure when you be honest with yourself and with others but mostly with yourself as to why you are honestly hurt so much by this man. Mostl honest with yourself.
You will find closure when you admit that you let him get the best of you but now you are going to take responsibility (giving him none) and accountability (expecting from him none) and take ownership. Then you will be walking in your power.
You will find closure when your perspective changes from this being about you and him to being about more right and wrong. Then more about TRUTH. When you see this through the eyes of one looking from the outside in... totally unbiased and perhaps somewhat detached... You can operate with a clearer head.
I'm not saying be completely detached and apathetic but mores detatched for purposes of being unbiased and more prone to truth.