The Older Woman: My Experience

I find it unusual that I'm writing in this section, but everything happens.

I'm reflecting on my life as I grow closer to my 40th birthday in August. Part of my reflection is in regards to my experiences dating older women and the impact it has had on me. I began dating older women when I was 20 and haven't really stopped, even now (my wife is one year older). The oldest woman I ever experienced was 17 years older than me. That experience taught me more about intimacy, sensuality and lovemaking than any other experience I've had with a woman. Even if I saw her today, she would still be as sensual to me now at 57 as she was when shew was 42. Her voice and nurturing (along with her voluptuous frame) are what made her the sensual person she is today.

I think part of the reason I began dating older women was because I felt a greater comfort level with them, and they felt something with me. There was no need to "put on a mask" or anything like that. In my experiences, the older woman was more genuinely affectionate (publicly and privately). Plus, the ability to talk and connect on multiple levels was a refreshing thing for me.

From a sexual standpoint, what the older woman gave me was a sense of what loving and being loved is. The sensual experience included gentleness, compassion, selflesness and a need to share oneself. I've never been the selfish kind sexually, which probably made the experience with the older woman that much more intense and blissful.

I felt the need to write this because in looking over my life, I'm beginning to learn more about myself and what makes me tick. My preference for women are those physically voluptuous ones (i.e. Jill Scott, Serena Williams, etc.). I'm still learning more in this area, but that will come in due time...