Does this mean I have a little yang in me?

[Love]

Do you know how women like to complain about things... all the time?  Well, I'm not pigeon-holing ALL women as complainers, but you know what I mean.  And do you know how most other women will sit there and say - "For real!"  "No!"  "You don't say."  "Mmm... hmm..."  You know where I'm getting.  For me, I CAN'T STAND these conversations of just wallowing in self-pity and complaining etc.  Instead of egging them on to continue, I instead may give a suggestion... like how men do.  Problem solved!  Nothing else to complain about.  And it boggles me that even with suggestions they still complain or dissect the situation.  I have no desire to dissect mundane events.  I'd rarther solve the problem and move on.  Does this mean I'm a bit yangish?  I mean, I don't have any plans of changing if that's the case.  I can't fathom having three-hour long conversations of how so and so had the audacity to buy the same shoes as so and so, and how trifling she is, etc.

What's your thoughts on this?

[living arts]

i don't see that as being yangish. but then again, there is nothing wrong with having a bit of yang. that means there is some type of balance there.

i know my yang parts very well and work it when needed.

[LovingLife]

I don't think that it necessarily means that you are "too yangish."  Perhaps because of your approach to life, you're probably very spiritually grounded and centered. When one is more spiritually centered, it brings about more of a contentment and calm to life.  The source of one's joy is internal, and exist simply as a result of being.

The natural result of spirituality is healing, thus a spiritually grounded and attuned person can more easily move to solutions for problems.

It's obvious Love that your focus is on higher things, and your perspectives on life are not the same as the "complainers."

Folks who are not grounded in this way have attitudes that are VERY subseptable to outside circumstances, situations, and how people relate to them.  Their moods and attitudes literally blow with the wind.  Many of these folks live with so much drama, it's hard for them to imagine life in any other form.  In other words, drama is the order of the day, so much so that if there is no drama at all, they'll seek it out.  Even to the point of creating it if none exist (i.e. three-hour conversations about how they don't like somebody because that somebody looked at them wrong).

Everyone must learn the lessons in and from the level or classroom of life that they find themselves in.  Because of this, there is wisdom in allowing people to have their own experiences.  Perhaps the lessons of moving past complainining and self pity are those that you have already moved passed. 

You, being a loved one, can speak with your friends/associates to encourage them to grow.  The best this can do, however, is plant a seed in their consciousness.  People have to make the choice to grow, and usually growth occurs only when one's current level of consciousness causes them to be dissatisfied with where they are in life.

Just my little two cents.   

[UltraVioletMix]

I don't think that it necessarily means that you are "too yangish."  Perhaps because of your approach to life, you're probably very spiritually grounded and centered. When one is more spiritually centered, it brings about more of a contentment and calm to life.  The source of one's joy is internal, and exist simply as a result of being.

The natural result of spirituality is healing, thus a spiritually grounded and attuned person can more easily move to solutions for problems.

It's obvious Love that your focus is on higher things, and your perspectives on life are not the same as the "complainers."

Folks who are not grounded in this way have attitudes that are VERY subseptable to outside circumstances, situations, and how people relate to them.  Their moods and attitudes literally blow with the wind.  Many of these folks live with so much drama, it's hard for them to imagine life in any other form.  In other words, drama is the order of the day, so much so that if there is no drama at all, they'll seek it out.  Even to the point of creating it if none exist (i.e. three-hour conversations about how they don't like somebody because that somebody looked at them wrong).

Everyone must learn the lessons in and from the level or classroom of life that they find themselves in.  Because of this, there is wisdom in allowing people to have their own experiences.  Perhaps the lessons of moving past complainining and self pity are those that you have already moved passed. 

You, being a loved one, can speak with your friends/associates to encourage them to grow.  The best this can do, however, is plant a seed in their consciousness.  People have to make the choice to grow, and usually growth occurs only when one's current level of consciousness causes them to be dissatisfied with where they are in life.

Just my little two cents.   

Totally agree

[Heavenzsun]

Would say "I hopE you got a lil yang in u for purposes of balance.

[LovingLife]

Would say "I hopE you got a lil yang in u for purposes of balance.

Tru dat!!!

[El Negro]

Do you know how women like to complain about things... all the time?  Well, I'm not pigeon-holing ALL women as complainers, but you know what I mean.  And do you know how most other women will sit there and say - "For real!"  "No!"  "You don't say."  "Mmm... hmm..."  You know where I'm getting.  For me, I CAN'T STAND these conversations of just wallowing in self-pity and complaining etc.  Instead of egging them on to continue, I instead may give a suggestion... like how men do.  Problem solved!  Nothing else to complain about.  And it boggles me that even with suggestions they still complain or dissect the situation.  I have no desire to dissect mundane events.  I'd rarther solve the problem and move on.  Does this mean I'm a bit yangish?  I mean, I don't have any plans of changing if that's the case.  I can't fathom having three-hour long conversations of how so and so had the audacity to buy the same shoes as so and so, and how trifling she is, etc.

What's your thoughts on this?

Believe me Love, men do this too! Shit almost everyone on the planet likes to wallow (and be supported, and support others) in their pity and complaints.

[Djehuty-M]

Do you know how women like to complain about things... all the time?  Well, I'm not pigeon-holing ALL women as complainers, but you know what I mean.  And do you know how most other women will sit there and say - "For real!"  "No!"  "You don't say."  "Mmm... hmm..."  You know where I'm getting.  For me, I CAN'T STAND these conversations of just wallowing in self-pity and complaining etc.  Instead of egging them on to continue, I instead may give a suggestion... like how men do.  Problem solved!  Nothing else to complain about.  And it boggles me that even with suggestions they still complain or dissect the situation.  I have no desire to dissect mundane events.  I'd rarther solve the problem and move on.  Does this mean I'm a bit yangish?  I mean, I don't have any plans of changing if that's the case.  I can't fathom having three-hour long conversations of how so and so had the audacity to buy the same shoes as so and so, and how trifling she is, etc.

What's your thoughts on this?

Believe me Love, men do this too! Shit almost everyone on the planet likes to wallow (and be supported, and support others) in their pity and complaints.

Tell It!!!!!!

[Imani]

Love, your doing just fine.

People staying in their own self pitty were reasons why I stayed away. I felt it was pointless to waist my time and energy after I spoke my mind.

[Love]

Thanks all... I was a little worried there since those qualities are usually attributed to males.  It's nice to know that a little balance is actually a good thing.  )