My Response to Male Sexuality Part 2

Great show today. It was cool for me to participate too, thank you. The show offered many practical tools and solutions for men to enhance their sex lives and consequently their sexual relationships with other individuals. I personally think that Bro Patrick hit on something when he discussed communication from my perspective. I think communication is vital for healthy sex; it might seem basic but I often think that men (particularly) and women come into the whole sex act with preconceived notions that may or may not be relevant to the mate they are with in the present. For example, I personally feel that mainstream consciousness about sex places too much weight on men. Men have to get it up, Men have to last long, Men have to hit the G-spot, etc. However, I usually do not hear about things women can do to make sex more enjoyable for themselves and/or for their male partners. Now, I am not defending male sexual problems as I do know there are solutions for solving them if a man is interested in remedying them. I also do feel it is important for men to hit the G-spot, last long, and be able to stand at full attention. I do believe that much of the onus for a pleasurable experience does fall on men since most times it is the men who get knocked out in the first round (ejaculate prematurely)too. However, I do believe that a bit more balance in the equation might be a little more beneficial. For example, for men it is important to work on their circulation, stress levels, and resolving any anxieties and emotional issues to have great and long lasting sex. While women do have erectile tissue too (clitoris), the vagina is a muscle and just like every muscle if you want to get the most benefit from it has to be worked out. Women have to be able to get it properly "wet" too. I feel that many women are more conscious of being able to get it wet than working out the qoochie in my perspective. Now I know there are many women who do various yoni egg and Kegel exercises to enhance their pelvic and vaginal muscles for pleasure, and performance. Kudoes to them and for those sisters who are not doing it, you might want to consider some doing of these healthy exercises, it just aint for men's benefit. Besides, I have heard a few brothas talking about how they really do not like their women's "loose goose". A "loose goose" can happen after pregnancy or just from having weak vaginal muscles. This of course can remedied by conducting the supra exercises (These exercises also make a female orgasm harder and more frequently too) Likewise, I think sex partners are unclear of what they want in their sexual interactions which can lead to unsatisfaction. For example, a lot of women might feel that as long as my man gets some (which often times which mean busts a nut) then he will be fine. On the other hand, some men feel that as long as they are making a woman cum (which is usually sufficient particularly since most women aint cummin) and maybe break her back out, then he is good. I am not saying these are not what some or most people desire but I do feel that both partners should have a clear understanding of what each other desires are. I personally believe that if the sexual chemistry aint there the relationship aint goin to work. If you have a man who wants jackhammer a women each time he goes to bat, and the women prefers slow and sensual, I am not sure that relationship is going to work. If you have a woman who wants it 1-2 twice every day but the man wants to sit up and watch sports instead, I am not sure that relationship is going to work either. I also think in the sex act there has to be giving and receiving. Men have to be able to give (do things that the women enjoys, which might mean go downtown brothas) and also receive (be able to do some things he likes). Women have to be able to give (do some things that man enjoys) and receive (have things done to her that she likes). I feel that it does not have to be from a sacrificial energy though. Hey, if a woman loves to get hit where she doodie at then hey I aint the brotha for her (not sayin that all women desire this). Likewise, women aint gotta swallow no dude's nasty tasting semen (which can only happen if the dude has an unhealthy diet, I heard coffee produces a pretty foul smell) and once again not saying that every dude wants their nut swallowed nor am I trying to be degenerate here. I think it is important for people to define what they are willing to give and how much (as it relates to things the partner enjoys) Now, I understand the dynamics of sexuality particularly in this country where many people particularly women are fucking for money (that includes wives) so while I might be ideal here I still believe that women giving up the skins for some job or out of fear denotes imbalance. Nevertheless, I think communication, being open to receive and give, and men and women taking proactive measures for pleasure and performance enhancement which can be natural, are important for a gratifying sex life.