WARNING: This article contains subject matter of an explicit nature. For mature audiences only!
 In many relationships here in the Matrix, people simply unconsciously break up to make up and they do this really for one reason, which I'm sure is mostly unconscious, and that is to experience what is missing in the relationship: PASSION!
Many relationships are suffering from a lack of passion and passion is steam and steam is a kind of fuel to move things, you know, like how steam moved ships or ocean liners and trains. Passion helps to keep relationships moving (going) and lack of passion can cause a relationship to bore and ultimately halt.
Make up sex is fueled by a lot of passion that is extracted from anger (negative energy). Anger creates heat or steam and that heat or steam comes out in the sex act as passion (and/or intensity), though usually animalistic and base passion.
I have a good friend and he was involved with this particular woman whom he said was always giving him drama. Sometimes he'd come home from work her chest (breasts) would be all up in his back and while talking shit to him, so much so that it would piss him off and then he'd be upset and angry too and then they'd be engaged in a heated argument (and there really is heat in a heated argument because if you could see two people in a heated argument their individual and collective aura would be dark red).
My friend noticed though that this type of activity and behavior strangely turned her on (sexually) as he could see it in her eyes. While he was upset and didn't really want to be bothered with her in that moment (as being a man just home from work and the crazy world all he really wanted in that particular moment was a piece of mind), she would want sex immediately after.
My friend didn't know that his woman was unconsciously giving him drama to compensate for the passion that was lacking in their relationship. Clearly they had a communication problem as well as an understanding problem and ole girl didn't know how to communicate her need for passion and how the relationship was lacking passion.
 When people don't know how to express themselves directly and from the 5th chakra (site of higher, open, and honest communication), they'll express themselves in the only way that they know how and for many people that may be to express themselves in a violent or tumultuous manner so as to get a reaction that will give them want they are truly wanting or desiring.
I can't lie, I too have been in this situation with women a few times. While this one particular relationship was full of passion (as two Venus-ruled signs made up this relationship), the excessive desire for more passion was found in make up sex.
The thing about me though is that when I wanted to be through with a woman (and really just for that moment and not permanently because in all honesty all I want in the moment is peace [of mind] but because the woman is upset due to feeling like she's not getting what she wants, therefore resulting in her not having her peace, she made a decision to make sure I too didn't have peace so she gave me drama so as to get an unconscious reaction), I would try to leave (walk out) because my Taurean horns were out by this time and I breathe anger during these times, and back then in the early 90's the motto for us men was "walk out before you strike out." There were even commercials telling us to walk out before we strike out.
Were I'm from (South Central Los Angeles) it was greatly common for men to swing on women, especially when upset (and still may be common for men to swing on women). However, due to how I was raised by my beloved pops (who set an awesome example for me of how a man was supposed to act and behave), I never physically hit a woman in any relationship I've ever been in; however, though in this particular relationship I'm detailing at hand, I did push or shove her on to the bed so that I could make a dash for the door and leave because that's what I was trying to do - the right thing, which was to leave because I was angry, but this particular female wasn't trying to hear that at that particular moment. She quickly got back up and grabbed me and we began to tussle. We ended up falling onto the bed and staring deep into each other's eyes which was followed, strangely, by passionate tongue kissing, which led to us taking off our clothes and ending up "between the sheets" engaged in hot, passionate sexual intercourse. We already had passion, very intense passion, but arguments and fall outs provided extra steam that we were both all too anxious and willing to accept.
Many people think Scorpio is the sign that loves sex but this is actually incorrect. It is actually Taurus and Libra, Venus-ruled signs that love to engage in sex and love-making which is a very natural act for these two Sun signs, more than any other signs in the Zodiac. Scorpios are intense with sex, but Taurus and Libra love sex.
Passion is a burning off, if you will. It's the equivalent of a sweat lodge and that's why a lot of times (if not most of the times) after passionate sex you feel very relieved, like a big weight has been lifted from you because passionate sex has a cathartic effect on us. It's a release!
However, what many have to learn is how to engage in hot, passionate/steamy sex and LOVE-MAKING absent being mad or angry at someone. Folks shouldn't have to break up and/or create drama to experience hot buttered, steamy/passionate sex in a relationship.
 Passion, heat, and anger all share the same color - RED, the color of the First or Root chakra (where our sex glands/organs are located).
Many people can attest to the fact that they have had some of the best (hottest) sex with the most incompatible partners in the most imbalanced and unhealthiest relationships. Why did and does this occur? Answer: It's the passion that results in most cases from the friction stemming from the opposition (challenges). An analysis of the relationship of this nature might have shown numerous hard aspects (in both party's natal chart) in such a union resulting in many challenges and obstacles.
While the passion in the sex act is healthy and good (in and of itself), the problem is, the challenges are just too overwhelming and extinguishes the flames of passion between the two. The challenges weigh heavily on the heart, spirit, and mind and either one or both partners feel drained and exhausted.
Despite the good, passionate sex, they just can't go on in the relationship. This is why many people will agree to break up but continue to have sex (be bed buddies or fuck mates). The sex is the only thing they have in common and enjoy from one another, so they want the sex but not the drama (challenges, struggles). They don't know how to overcome the drama (challenges, struggles) and it's usually because they didn't really take the time to know and learn one another. They became bed mates or fuck buddies first instead of platonic friends (and perhaps because the sexual attraction was too strong). And after all the good, hot buttered, passionate sex, then and only then did they begin to see the REAL person whom they immediately acknowledged they didn't like and want to be with in a long term relationship.
Now, there are some exceptions to the rule where you do have two individuals who do stay in the most unhealthiest and imbalanced relationships all because the sex is good, plus, they are receiving what they both want in accordance pursuant to the law of attraction.
The dude who might be serving her good in bed might also be telling her things that keep her self-esteem and self-confidence lowered or down because after all she accepts her low self-esteem and confidence; she doesn't feel loved, beautiful, worthy (of good things), etc. Her lower chakras are usually damaged and she is connected to the dude by lower chakra cords that keep her dependent to him in an unhealthy and imbalanced relationship. She operates from demons of the lower chakras: fear, guilt, shame, dependence (sexual, emotional, and/or financial).
 This kind of couple argues and fights often and ends the insalubrious routine in the sack with passionate, base and animalistic sexual intercourse. Repetition of this routine ends up becoming mental programming whereby both parties know their roles and part in the drama to perfection and precision. It may sound dysfunctional (and it actually is), but the female might be receiving and experiencing what many women in healthier and balanced relationships are not: orgasms galore! This may be enough for a woman to tolerate such brute treatment. Her dude is knockin' her hiney to perfection and she loves it! If he can't do anything else, if he can break her off in her drawers (panties), then that's enough for the female to keep him around, as a handyman - a sexual handyman.
And being under the influence of drugs and alcohol may help the matter with the woman sexually because with her inhibitions totally down or broken (at least temporarily), various portals are accessible to her and this may help her to reach orgasm as she's entirely gone from thought (and feeling, e.g. "pain") and thus gone from earthly or mundane matters, concerns, and worries. This may be a typical scenario for imbalanced (or wounded) females who may be of the Sun signs Pisces and/or Virgo who are prone to escape their earthly realities by means of drugs, alcohol, and sex.
Pisces and Virgo are astrological opposites and pick up each other's shadow (or negative, unskillful) traits. You saw this with Michael Jackson, a Virgo who operated under unskillful Piscean traits (escapism via drugs).
The really unfortunate result of this kind of union is when the woman conceives a child under such insalubrious circumstances. The child is conceived in an unhealthy passion (animalistic drive absent real love) with great negativity. The child is a "fuck baby" and this kind of baby is born not feeling loved. The child of this union may be unstable (mentally, psychologically, and emotionally) too because it was not conceived in love nor with purpose and desire and feels it has no purpose in life, that it does not belong, that it is not wanted.
So, the child may feel greatly unloved and unwanted. The child may also suffer from great anger due to great pain from being angry at the parents for how the child came forth or the circumstances that lead to how the child came forth. The child's anger may also come from the anger the mother has stored and locked up in her cells at a cellular level, and existing with her for years. This kind of child may be born with colic and fever, metaphysically representing 'upset' and 'anger.'
The child may may have both chakra poles (feet chakra and crown chakra) open which could make this child prone to suicidal tendencies. When the feet chakras and crown chakra are both open simultaneously and for an extended amount of time, it allows the soul an exit out of the body.
 In closing, break up to make up sex is a reality in the Matrix. It is happening all the time because so many people are just so unconscious in this day and age. Many people simply just didn't have examples of functional male-female/husband-wife relationships and don't know what a healthy union entails. These individuals have to learn and mature by way of experience. Because they don't have the necessary guidance, they experience many hard lessons in life before they ultimately "get it" (learn their lessons).
One of the best tools that exist to help people understand themselves and especially what they require (emotionally, sexually, spiritually, etc.) is astrology. An astrological birth chart will reveal to you about your conscious will and basic nature (denoted by your Sun sign), your emotional requirements and reactions (denoted by your Moon sign), your natural defenses within your environment (denoted by your Rising sign); your style or modality of communication (denoted by your Mercury sign); what you desire in love and how you attract what you desire (denoted by your Venus sign); what you desire sexually and your active energy (denoted by your Mars sign), and so many other things.
All the keys to your relationships wants, desires, needs, and requirements are hidden in your natal chart, but revealed in the study of the placements of your Sun sign, Moon sign, Venus, Mars, Eros, Psyche, Vesta, Juno, 5th House, 7th House (Descendant), and 9th House.
God did not leave you hanging (lacking) on planet Earth. The maps exists and astrology is one of them, in my opinion, the best one. As every vehicle manufactured comes with a instructional manual or booklet, so did you and I. An unfortunate reality is that many of us are born into religious households that foster a belief that our maps are anti-God. Nothing could be further from the truth.
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