I am often asked the question, "Is celibacy healthy?" and my retort or answer is: it all
depends. Depends on what? Well, the person, the intent and/or objective, and the
circumstances.
Celibacy is defined as the lifestyle of someone who is voluntarily abstaining from all
sexual activities, remaining without any sexual or romantic partner, and unmarried, all
of his or her life. Celibacy is defined both historically and currently as being in a
freely chosen state of active sexual abstinence.
The English word 'celibacy' derives from the Latin word 'caelebs', meaning "unmarried."
My personal view on celibacy is that celibacy is quite healthy for purposes of sexual
discipline and more importantly, for purposes spiritual cultivation and evolution.
Sexual abstinence to fine tune the spiritual self is a great discipline.
I myself have been celibate (or technically, temporarily sexually abstinent) twice in my
life, 1993-1997 and 2001-2005, and each time for a period of four years. Celibacy does
myself some real good considering my astral makeup. I'm a serial monogamist by nature and
having quadruple Venus in my natal chart makes me a very sexually fastidious person
despite my insatiable appetite for physical touch and sexual activity, but again, with
only one person (mate) at a time.
For myself personally, I always choose to be celibate after ending or exiting out of a
relationship for wholistic health purposes. I never attempt to immediately connect with
somebody new 'on the rebound' after a relationship ends. Actually, I have no need to.
This is a very unhealthy practice that too many people engage in and simply due to
reasons of not being able to or not wanting to be by themselves for some retro and
introspection, inner (emotional) healing, and clearing and/or cutting of chakra cords.
After I separate from a mate (woman) and relationship, I take the necessary and quality
time to engage in retrospection and introspection so as to extract valuable life lessons
learned from the person (mate) and union or relationship.
I also work on clearing and cutting any unhealthy chakra cords attached to the person I
just separated from or divorced (if I'm married). This allows me to heal from any
emotional damage that I may have suffered due to the separation or termination of the
union.
Separating from a mate and relationship can be very painful and injurious as when we are
with someone for a period of time and are sexually intimate with them on a consistent
basis, we establish connections via cords - chakra cords. We develop psychic and
emotional connections, women more so than men as women are obviously more psychic, intuitive, and
emotional than most men are. But both males and females develop these connections while united
in a union or relationship.
Emotional healing takes time and when we immediately jump right into another
relationship, we rob ourselves of the healing that is necessary for us to grow and evolve
and that ultimately prepares us for our next relationship. In addition, we also lose out
on learning valuable lessons from the last or previous relationship. After all, all
relationships are reflections of ourselves contingent upon where we may be in our lives
while with our mate at that particular time or point in our life.
Our relationships reflects our individual consciousness at a particular time in our
present life existence.
Our mates serve as mirrors (of ourselves) and usually the things we don't like in our
mates we don't like in ourselves.
The reason why so many people seek to connect with a new mate 'on the rebound' after just
getting out of a relationship is that they are attempting to connect or reconnect their
damaged cords and because like recognizes like, especially on an energetic level, the
person's damaged cords ends up connecting with another damaged and injured person's cords
(making that person's cords damaged as well) and thus the same relationship scenario
plays out all over again.
Basically, we're doing the very same things (with each new mate) and experiencing the
same results - dysfunctional relationship that usually ends on a sour note leaving us
with more pain from damage and injury, usually to the fourth chakra or Love center
(called 'Anahata' in Sanskrit).
Basically, everyone we're with in a relationship constitutes the same kind of lover,
well, in general. So, many of us experience the same kind of relationship but with just
different lovers. It's just one big relationship with many different lovers who exemplify
the same kind of personality and behavior patterns and traits. This is why you will hear
people say: "All my women are just alike", or, "Every dude treats me the same way", or,
"No matter who I'm with, it's the same shit!"
We attract our mates pursuant to vibration but also pursuant to contract, usually past-life contracts
that the majority of us don't remember (despite feeling real close connections from certain mates
and lovers before we come together intimately in a relationship).
Being celibate while we recover from the hurt and pain of a relationship that has
recently ended is very good for us, prevents us from being emotionally confused which
happens when we become sexually intimate with others after a relationship ends. Casual
sex with various or multiple partners (bedmates) is not salubrious if we are serious
about healing. Plus, instead of clearing and cutting old unhealthy cords, we're creating
new unhealthy cords and doing more damage to ourselves.
Conscious celibacy is salubrious while celibacy by default can be detrimental to us. When
we just kind of settle into celibacy without conscious intent or intention, we may
subconsciously be suppressing or repressing our sexuality, creating an anchor. However, everything that
is suppressed must sooner or later be expressed. This is why a lot of people become
sexual freaks after stints or bouts of celibacy. The reasons for celibacy must be
conscious ones. You should know the science behind celibacy as well as your reasons and
objectives for being celibate. 
Being celibate can help to keep your aura pure after you have healed (balanced) it.
Celibacy can also help to keep your mind focused and clear. Celibacy also gives your
genitals and reproductive organs and system time to heal as well.
Celibacy does the same exact things fasting does for the mind, body, and spirit. That's
what celibacy is - a fast! A fast from sexual intercourse.
Fasting develops discipline and sexual discipline is a great discipline to have.
Now, some people who have predominantly violet, translucent white or pinkish-lavender
colored auras may be natural loners and thus will have no problem leading a celibate life
and walk (journey).
These individuals have evolved into a life based upon the Seventh chakra and have
detached themselves from material desires and material things. These individuals have no
problem being celibate, and for life.
My contention is that celibacy (life long celibacy) is insalubrious here in the Matrix
because sex is a very important lesson for so many souls to learn here in this part of
the planet. If you are born here in the Western world, especially the U.S., you are
partly here to learn about power which includes personal power and sexual power. My above
words by no means do not justify sexual perversity, sexual abuse, and sexual violation though many lessons
do come under these acts. I do think Americans are extreme with their sexual antics and preoccupation.
If you were born in the late 1960s, the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s, you have serious sex and
relationship lessons to learn in this present life incarnation. This may be very enhanced
if you have in your natal chart Uranus in Scorpio (which occurred c. 1975 to 1981) which
denotes uncontrolled or out-of-control sexual freedom as well as sexual extremism.
Your sexual proclivities for purposes of life lessons may also be enhanced if you have a
preponderance of Scorpio and/or Leo and/or Mars placement in your natal chart as all of
these deal with sex and sexual energy in the science of astrology.
Being celibate while desiring sex or desiring to be sexual can be detrimental as it can
create or lead to anger, frustration (sexual frustration), unhappiness, sadness, and
confusion. Things can possibly backfire on you too and you can end up in one-night stands
or casual sex encounters, especially if the sexual suppression becomes too powerful, or
if you're lustful during celibacy and the lust becomes too powerful.
Personally, I think celibacy is best if practiced during intervals of relationships. The
smart and conscious person takes some time for him or her self after leaving a union and
performs energy work on him or her self for purposes of healing. It takes time to get
over a lover, especially if love was really involved.
In healing ourselves, we keep the best part of a relationship and its memories and we cut
out and discard all unhealthy and negative aspects of the relationship as it doesn't
serve us, doesn't serve our higher and greater good.
Being celibate allows us to truly reflect, introspect, retrospect, purify our mind, body,
and spirit, and to evolve.
Celibacy is only a positive or negative thing when you place it within context as to
person, circumstance, and intent or objective.
Celibacy has positively and successfully aided me on my soul-journ and that's because I
understood the science of the act. However, celibacy is a personal choice in accordance
pursuant to free will and therefore, celibacy may not be for everybody.
Thank you for reading!
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