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I have been with my husband for 4 years, we've been married for 2 months. He's 24 and a cancer, I'm 21 and a scorpio. When things are good, they're wonderful. He's the sweetest, most loving, and affectionate husband ever. We have complete trust for each other, and a lot of commonality. We both believe a mass ascension is imminent, so we strive to keep alignment with our source. He does so much for me, and always is there when I really need him! He takes care of me when I am sick, and gives me a lot of love! Im vegan, and he stays away from all processed or inorganic foods. When we are together we have wonderful and enlightening conversations. We laugh, and spend days together truly enjoy each others company. Now here comes the downside, when we fight its NEVER about anything serious, it's usually about something incredibly silly. However, he closes up every time! The lack of communication, makes it difficult to express my feelings. As soon as I begin expressing them, his temper just gets set off. He starts screaming, cursing, and putting me down the first chance he gets. After he's treated me horribly, and I'm upset and crying. He calls me a baby, and his first approach is to leave and ignore me. Which quite frankly, drives me crazy! I know it shouldn't, but I just truly believe in communication and reasoning together and he never wants to! He prefers to turn a blind eye to his behavior! He treats me like **** when he is angry, and then leaves. When he comes back, (hours later, and he always goes to his dads) he always feels horrible. He cries sometimes, and tells me how he knows he cannot continue to lose his temper. He tells me he loves me too much, and I don't deserve to be treated that way. I genuinely feel he means it. But, then as soon as something happens that he doesn't want, or like he loses sight of everything he says.. He doesn't only do this to me but to everyone! Anytime he doesn't agree with something (whether he's ACTUALLY correct or not) he goes wild! Cursing, yelling, being very nasty and demeaning! For that brief moment he makes up in his head that he's right, and justifies all his behavior. He doesn't realize that his victimization is self-imposed, until later when he returns. Then he begins to realize, and the apologies commence. He's always done it, and has always promised to stop. I get mad when he does it to other people, and I get mad when he does it to me. I understand that no one is perfect and I understand you have to have love regardless. I even understand that I am attracting all this to myself somehow. I was also diagnosed with lichen planus 4 months ago. It's all over my body. I did the blood detox and urine therapy and thankfully, its all gone. But I still have ugly brown scars all over my body! Which means I still cannot be in the sun, and have to cover my entire body when I go out. I know I probably attracted that too! I have done affirmations. We have done affirmations nightly together. I have put up law of attraction posters. I try to consciously attract what I desire on a daily basis. I try to reason with him. I've tried everything I could think of. I'm not sure how to approach this issue in my relationship anymore. I just know I despise being disrespected and yelled at, regardless if he meant it or not. I believe in unconditional love and respect. Communication is a big part of that. Im sorry for the very long email. Thank you for your time and I hope this message finds you in peace.
It sound like he should get some type of counseling or anger management. He may have had some type of trauma that is causing him to react this way. As for you, all you can do is move away from him when he is acting like this. Instead of staying and waiting for him to leave when he gets out of control, calmly say "I do not want to see you like this, so I am going to take a walk until you calm down." This will break up the pattern you are both on with this behavior. Give him lots of love and wait to express how you feel when you are both calmer. Forcing or pushing him to talk before he is ready may be a trigger that makes him feel angry and out of control. We recommend that you both agree to change your perspective on fighting. Recognize that fighting is only a perspective collision. Your goal should be to grow not to win when fighting or arguing. This will bring you closer when you argue instead of making you fight. You can also start working on your perspective about him. Start telling yourself wouldn't it be nice if he communicated with me and listened to my perspective when we disagreed. You have to see him how you want him to be before he can become what you want.
Here is a link to an article we wrote on defusing arguments.
You can also visit our website www.theamazingclarks.com to watch a video about fighting to grow as well.
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Best of luck! Love and light to you both.
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